Unity
I think I was quite young when I figured out that "united" with 2 letters switched around is "untied". It's always stuck with me. So I keep thinking of that as I prepare my lesson for next week's marriage preparation class...and I need your help. I'm asking that you comment about how you have attained unity in your marriage, or seen someone you know attain unity in theirs. What does it take to be unified?
Please, any thoughts are appreciated!
Thank you, friends.
For about the first year of our marriage, classes and work managed to allow us time together every Friday afternoon to go to the temple. It didn't last the entire time we were in Provo - Clint's work schedule changed and so did mine - but for that first year or 18 months it was wonderful to be in the temple together so often. It was something that we didn't even think about, but later we realized how beneficial it was to us, especially starting out. Besides that, I don't think we'll ever be so close to the temple again, (now we're 3 1/2 hours) so I'm glad we took advantage of it when we were at BYU.
ReplyDeleteWe have a rule that we always publicly support each other, and then we discuss it later, because seeming "untied" all the time certainly leads to you actually being that way. For example, if Austin tells the kids something, even if it's not something I would allow, I support his stance in front of the kids and then we discuss it later. Obviously we can disagree on things like "oh, I like that painting" while we're at an art show, but when it matters, we back each other up.
ReplyDeleteYou know I have to say something. . . I recently wrote about bees on my profile at mormon.org. Bees are a "eusocial" species. This means that they work together for something other than their own survival: they visit millions of flowers, clean and stay very very busy - for their offspring. Working together for something other than self, especially for future generations, creates extraordinary unity!
ReplyDeleteI've noticed over the last almost 4 years that when Steven and I read our scriptures TOGETHER consistantly, we're more unified. We fight less and are more loving towards each other.
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